Day 13 – Poet’s Billow Challenge: Recipe for a good marriage

Today’s challenge asks to write on a poem in the form of a recipe. This poem doesn’t have to be about food but an abstraction like love, wealth,pride. I’ve chosen marriage. 

This recipe has been crafted from a combination of my own experiences and lessons learnt and observations from friends, family and colleagues and not to be read as an expert’s advice but a creative piece for reflection – your comments are very welcome.

Recipe for a good marriage


This recipe will require 4 key ingredients which are further broken down into other individual ingredients. Some proportions will vary according to personal taste and dietary requirements

(1) ¼ portion of mutual attraction

  • Physical – shop around a bit to determine suitable quantities you require in relation to beauty, physique versus sex appeal. Note that the sex appeal which exudes from your potential partner is not always to do with physical features (Note also that physical features do change with age so choose with this in mind)
  • Things in common – Buy enough common interest to enjoy together but get a sufficient bunch of individual and diverse pursuits to stay interesting and not be overly dependent on each other
  • Chemistry – feel the attraction through that magical click of mind, body and soul. This is often not a tangible ingredient. You’ll just know when you enter the store
  • Communication – buy a bunch of verbal and body language skills and a bottle of intuition
  • Intelligence – Try to find equally matched quantities of intelligence
  • Passion/romance – You might need to shop around for this special ingredient in the spice shop. A packet of mixed spice is recommended including mild, medium and hot
  • Companionship – If all else fails, this can be your saving ingredient, therefore it should be high on your shopping list

    (2)    ¼ portion of compatibility

Suggest you buy all these in bulk, you won’t always know when you may need it.

Try  to get a complete pack that includes all of these ingredients

  • trust
  • humour
  • space/freedom
  • respect
  • tolerance
  • patience
  • forgiveness
  • finance
  • values and beliefs

(3)   ¼ of satisfying sex

  • mind – A Bouquet garni of mind over matter is vital, and is good to include in a marinade before putting your dish in the oven
  • mood – A box of dinner treats, chocolates, wine, fireplace, music, dance, and thoughtfulness must be acquired according to taste and be added to the marinade
  • moves – Ensure that you buy a packet of liquorice all sorts here since you’ll need to vary your flavor as and when you choose and buy a box of headache tablets in case you need them

(4)  ¼ of family

  • children – This might be optional but if you consider it a crucial ingredient, decide on quantity and how you want to prepare it ahead of time since your meal will need to include it everyday like salt
  • extended family – Be sure to look beyond seeing this ingredient as a trimming since it can make your meal wholesome or spoil the taste completely
  • time – Buy plenty of time to make allowance for preparation, flavoring and shelf life of your meal. It is also important that there is enough time for everyone’s plate including your own


Sift through portions 1 and 2 and mix and stir until all ingredients are smooth and creamy. Preheat the oven. Heat portion 3 separately until it has reached the right temperature and mix well with portions 1 and 2. Place in a large casserole dish and bake for as long as you can. You will need to keep basting your dish with portion 4. While portion 4 is very important, you may have to alter according to taste.

This serves a maximum of two as a main course. Dessert is optional and dependant on whether you have a sweet tooth. Note that dessert if not considered carefully, can ruin your meal.

14 thoughts on “Day 13 – Poet’s Billow Challenge: Recipe for a good marriage

      1. No, I wasn’t talking about experimentation but the contents of poem/recipe itself. I just realised for example that I forgot about humour. I think it’s quite an important ingredient in any relationship. So I’ll have to add it. Thank you for indulging me:-)

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  1. Ah Chevvy, the practical romantic! I think you’ve hit on pretty much everything 🙂 So, are you still grocery shopping or have you found everything you need for your recipe? Hee hee. I’ll let this one cook in my brain and see if my Muse feels like writing about it. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Sometimes when you want a special meal, you need to go out specially to buy just the right ingredient which only specialist shops sell. Other times, you have to find the closest replacement ha!ha! On a more serious note though, there can’t be many superwomen or supermen, so the replacement ingredient is the compromise.

      I wonder if practical and romantic go together. I think you can get lost in the romantic and be a little crazy – after all, there is a lot of fantasy in Romance. Btw my Muse is very impulsive – I normally write about the first thing that comes to mind usually believing its the right thought for that time:-) Thanks for the visit Joan. Best. Chevvy.

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